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On Tuesday a moving post on the importance of waiting on God was shared by a reader. It wasn’t  long before I began receiving requests for the ‘letter from God’ the author spoke of receiving at youth camp. Today our writer is sharing this beautiful letter–she does not know the title or author of the piece. (If you do, let us know and we will credit the author.)


Everyone longs to give himself completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.  But God to a Christian Says:

“No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me alone, until you give yourself totally to Me, having an intensely personal and unique relationship with me alone, discovering that only in me is your satisfaction found.  Then and only then will you be capable of the human relationship that I have planned for you.

You will never be wholly united with another until you are united with Me, exclusive of any other desires or longings.  I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing- one that you cannot imagine.  I want you to have the BEST!

Choose my way.  You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest and keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM.  Keep listening and learning the things I tell you.  You just wait, that’s all. Don’t be anxious.  Don’t look at the things you want.  You just keep looking off and up to Me or you will miss what I want to show you.  You see, until you are ready (and I am working even this moment to have both of you ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you will not be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me and this perfect love.

My Dear One, I want you to have the most wonderful love for one another.  I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you with Myself.  Know that I love you completely and eternally.  I am the Almighty God.  Believe Me, trust Me, and be satisfied. “


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  1. This is the first time I’ve visted this website – I kind of “followed a thread” that landed me here.

    I wanted to find something for single women, and was happy to see a section for singles, but coming across the above letter, I admit I feel kind of angry.

    I have been single 46 years. Throughout these years I have experienced many emotions, and have had many heart-to-hearts with God about my desire for marriage, and I have been have been transparent, honest and vulnerable with God.

    Occassionally I’d try being vulnerable with other Christian women who were married, asking them to pray on my behalf for God to send me a mate. I was told more often than not that I did not have a mate because I was not content in my singleness,God was not my everything, and perhaps, it was not God’s will for mes to be married anyway. This exchange has been experienced by many, many single Christians. Also, as singles age, there’s a suspicion we are gay or too picky.

    I don’t know if this post will convey to you the hurt singles have experienced from this “counseling” by people who have no idea what they are talking about. Please stop, because you’re not speaking the truth. God certainly has and does grant marriages to people who have not fully immersed themselves in him, and for those who have immered themselves, marriage is not automatically given. Marriage is not a reward for good behavior, nor is it a matter of worthiness of love. Those desire and pray for marriage (or babies and healing but have not (yet) received the fulfillment of that desire/prayer are not falling short of the standard to receive a reward. If they do get married, have a baby, or receive healing there is joy, and a deep appreciation and thankfulness for receiving that answer of yes to prayer. People do not have to say something when faced with another person’s struggle, grief, and pain, but can pray for comfort, healing, and asking on their behalf that God would grant that marriage, child, or healing; and if there is continued waiting – strength and trusting that God knows the feelings of that person, and is operating out of love.

  2. Page Hughes says:

    You make some very valid points in your response to the letter. As married women we don’t know the pain you feel as you read. All I know is that God doesn’t choose for everyone to be married. Marriage never completes a person. We are complete in the Lord alone, and as I read this letter I felt like that was what it was trying to say. Marriage is not a reward for being good. Neither is having children a mark of whether God is pleased with us. God has a different path and plan for each of us. We just need to be open to His plan and follow. My best friend is 51, never married, never had children. She too deals with frustration over blanket statements at times, but she has found that her true joy is found in a relationship with Jesus. She still mourns what she would have loved to have had but realizes that there are many who are married and have children that are not fulfilled. Her true peace has come from resting in the fact that God does have a plan for her life and up until this point it has not included marriage. If He changes His mind she is open, but until then she finds her peace in knowing God is in control.

  3. Tracey Cagle says:

    I agree wholeheartedly that sometimes comments made can be insensitive. I do believe they are not meant maliciously. Thanks to women like you who are willing to share how hurtful these types of comments can be maybe we, as sisters in Christ, can think about our words a little more before we speak them.
    I have a dear friend who has been single for twelve years and another who was widowed this year after her husband succumbed to a long battle with cancer. One has prayed for a companion and eagerly sought a mate, while the other just wants to take it slow. Guess which one now has a new man in her life?
    Because I do not understand God’s ways it is impossible for me to understand why the path for each has been so different when both are Godly women with so much to offer. I continue to pray that God will bring someone special for my single friend and also that she will have peace in the waiting. I will be praying the same for you.

  4. It is very difficult for me to imagine what it would have been like if I had to deal with the longing I had to be married and have children for another seventeen years while I went through my child-bearing years. There would not have been an answer I could have understood or that would have satisfied my desire.

    Well-meaning friends, family, and Christian family, can say things which only raise more questions. The kind of hurtful comments of which you speak could perhaps be similar to the comments made to those who have lost a child. “You can have another,” “Maybe God wanted this child in heaven,” “Your son must have been extra special.”

    I understand what you say about marriage coming to those who do not know God, and for those who follow God — they are not necessarily all married. Your final sentences are a reminder to all of us that some of the best comments we can give are, “I cannot imagine what you are going through and do not understand why you have to go through it, but I want you to know I care about you and love you. And even more importantly, God loves you.”

    You write with maturity, concern, and wisdom. I hope that you have an opportunity to mentor and teach others. You have a gift.

  5. Tony Evans has been speaking on this very subject. It is excellent. You could go to his website and see about his CD on the subject.

    Also, Nancy Leigh DeMoss is another great resource and has a booklet on singleness. Again, excellent!

  6. My dear sister,

    Thank you for sharing these very heartfelt words. Mentoring Moments is a place where we can all be honest, and I thank you that you felt safe enough on this site to express your true feelings to us.

    Sometimes in an effort to help ease the pain of those around us, we say things to comfort them. Sometimes we do more harm than good.

    I was “single again” for several years, after being with my first husband 11+ years. It was a very heartbreaking time, as it is for many single adults.

    I don’t know your personal situation, but God does. He knows your heart, dear one. He knows your desires.

    He knew my desires. I say “knew” because after seven years of being “single again,” I am now a newlywed of a little over 8 months.

    He comforted me, Kathi. He taught me more about myself, others, and Him. I trust He is comforting you in your season of singleness.

    As you wait on Him, be free in Christ to express those longings to Him. He placed those desires in us for relationship, for a deep intimacy with another person. He finds no fault in your feelings but wants to love you as you pour them out at His feet.

    Your Heavenly Father loves you, my friend.

    Big hugs,