Mentoring Walking in Wisdom

Healing Conflict in Church

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In 1995, Bob wrote a book called Love in Action:  Healing Conflict in Your Church (Multnomah Publishing Company). The book encourages us to become agents of reconciliation in our churches and relationships.

One chapter was satirically named, “Ten Ways to Split Your Church.”
Step One: Focus exclusively on your own desires.

Step Two: Listen to every criticism.

Step Three: Focus on your pastor’s weaknesses, not his strengths.

Step Four: Speak the truth or practice love, but never combine the two.

Step Five: Store grievances for future use.

Step Six: Forgive only those who ask you to do so and only if they deserve it.

Step Seven:  Hide your own sin behind harsh attitudes.

Step Eight: Use prayer to unite discontented individuals
(and spread inappropriate information.)

Step Nine: Do whatever you have to in order to win.

Step Ten: Remember, you are on a mission from God.

Parents, not doing these “ten” is important to your child loving God and wanting to serve in the church someday.  Teach your children to respect their spiritual authorities by respecting your spiritual elders yourself.   Do nothing that would lead to a split in your church,. Your children are watching. And so is God.

“Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time.  After that, having nothing to do with him.  You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.”  Titus 3:10-11

Remember, marriage is for better for worse for keeps.

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About Cheryl Moeller

Cheryl Moeller has been married to her best friend Bob for 30 years. They are the parents of six children, one son-in-law, and three lively dogs. She uses her over-the-counter-top stand up comedy at women's groups and retreats, prays like it's her full-time job, writes a syndicated humor column, blogs about life with lots of kids at www.momlaughs.blogspot.com, and authors books such as Keep Courting: 100 Ways to Keep Courting After Marriage (purchase on their website) and Marriage Miracle (Harvest House 2010). Bob and Cheryl's passion is to connect two hearts for a lifetime. They have co-founded For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries www.bobandcherylmoeller.com.

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Cheryl Moeller

Cheryl Moeller has been married to her best friend Bob for 30 years. They are the parents of six children, one son-in-law, and three lively dogs. She uses her over-the-counter-top stand up comedy at women's groups and retreats, prays like it's her full-time job, writes a syndicated humor column, blogs about life with lots of kids at www.momlaughs.blogspot.com, and authors books such as Keep Courting: 100 Ways to Keep Courting After Marriage (purchase on their website) and Marriage Miracle (Harvest House 2010). Bob and Cheryl's passion is to connect two hearts for a lifetime. They have co-founded For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries www.bobandcherylmoeller.com.

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