You are your husband’s number one prayer warrior. The late wife of Dr. Billy Graham, Ruth Bell Graham said, “It’s not our job to change him. It’s our job to love him. It’s God’s job to change him.” Those words have spoken volumes to me over the past 17 years of marriage.
Another lesson I have learned is whenever there is a potential for a tiff I stop and ask myself if I am being selfish or prideful in the situation. When I truly come face to face with situations in light of what Christ has done on the cross it puts everything in a better perspective.When I let go of my selfishness and my pride, my husband and I have far fewer disagreements.
I share this hesitatingly—knowing that there are women out there in abusive situations who need to rise up and say “I deserve better than this!” I’m not talking about those kinds of husbands. When you would consider your husband to be a good guy—someone who is well-intentioned but who misses the boat a bit, this attitude can help toward bringing peace and harmony into your marriage and freeing up your energy to be able to reach out to others rather than to obsess about arguments between you.