“Un” Husband Bashing
Can I safely say, we’ve all done it? Sitting around with a group of women listing the things that get on our nerves about our husbands. I feel like men are guilty of this too, however, we are probably worse because we are known as the “talkers.” If we aren’t careful, we’ll end up harming someone else’s marriage. Someone in that group may desperately need to hear uplifting words.
Remember: Negative comments and bad attitudes are contagious!
He keeps the toilet seat up…
He leaves the toothpaste out…
He drops his clothes next to the hamper…
He spends too much time with his hobby…
He doesn’t listen…
I have to add on that last bash that men are different listeners.
You have to know how to help them listen.
Make eye contact, be kind, don’t over-talk the issue, and DON’T try to talk about it during the game. 🙂
Contrary to popular belief that physicality is their number one need, men want to be respected. My husband once told me that he’d felt very loved when I had defended him in front of a group over a decision he’d made. As the song says, “Stand by your man.”
I’ll encourage you this month as we are focused on love and Valentine’s Day to give your husband a list of all the things you love about him. Be specific!
Here is mine to my husband:
* That you treat me like a lady and open doors for me.
* That you are strong and care about your body.
* That you provide for our family.
* That you always let me pick the restaurant and the movie.
* That you help with household chores.
* That you love our kids and are very involved in their lives.
* That you are patient with me when I’m being moody.
* That you still take me on dates!
* That you bring me flowers, smoothies, even yummy leftovers because you are thinking of me.
* That you shop with me.
* That you encourage me to do things with friends.
* Mostly that you love the Lord and give godly, sound advice to me and our kids.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 The Message
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