A few years ago one of our children said, “ Mom you’re no fun!” To which my husband said, “Well she used to be. Wonder what changed?” They were both right.
My husband was leading our child to see that having children and being responsible can drain the fun right out of you. I determined then that I would try to be more fun in my marriage again. I thought of specific ways I could intentionally pursue my goal.
- Think about what I once did. I used to send fun notes, silly cards, and give small tokens of my love.
- Be spontaneous. Touch my husband in fun ways. Poke and pinch lovingly. Kiss him when I pass by. Smile and wink at him more or just let him catch me looking at him with a smile.
- Create fun activities to go and do. Since we have had so much snow I bought a plastic sled and we went sliding recently. Picnic, go to ballgames, take a walk, go to a park and just lie in the grass and look at the sky or clouds. Most of these are inexpensive and take little planning. Arrange for the kids to have a sitter and just spend time together. Don’t let your children guilt you. You need the time away, and they deserve the wonderful parents that will return.
- Plan a weekend away once a year. Yes this is one that will take money and planning, but getting away can rekindle a romantic fire that overwork and many responsibilities can dampen.
Learning to play and intentionally having fun can remind you of the people you once were before jobs, children, and household responsibilities took hold. It is also a glimpse of what can be again. Enjoy the husband of your youth. Live your marriage @ full strength.