For weeks photos of tween-age girls have shown up in my Facebook feed. All asking the same question:
Do you think I’m pretty? If yes, hit ‘Like’.
Last week, because a tween friend had clicked ‘like’, yet another teen girl showed up in my feed. I read all 59 comments to this pretty brown-haired girl. The filth ranged from calling her ugly to comments about her parents. The culprits–fellow girls and guys.
The sponsor of this insanity, a Facebook page called Most Beautiful Teen Contest, is a page where anyone can upload pictures of a friend, an enemy, or self for everyone to compliment, or not. This type of Facebook page is not unique. When you run a Facebook search using words such as most beautiful numerous pages will appear. There are pages for most beautiful couples, teens, friends, even babies. Check them out–yes, look at what is influencing our young people. There is even a YouTube version Carla Ann Coroy wrote about last week on her blog.
Anger and sadness filled my heart when I read what this young girl is being subjected to at the hands of people she most likely does not even know.
Do you think I’m pretty? If yes, hit ‘Like.’
Is a young girl you know asking that question?
Who is answering her back?
My response on Facebook to the insanity was:
Daddy, tell your daughter every day she is beautiful and loved by you and the Lord. If you don’t, she will not know how to discern sincere love from lust. Don’t let her find her compliments on Facebook–they need to come from you!
Fishing for compliments is not a godly characteristic at any age. In fact, it shows discontentment, desire to be flattered, insecurity, and low self-esteem. It may not be your child searching for love and compliments online, it could be her best friend, the tween across the street, or the young man in your Sunday School class.
Be aware of the fragile hearts around you on any given day, hearts searching for love and acceptance. If our children do not receive it from us, they will look elsewhere…
Do you think I’m pretty? If so, hit ‘Like.’
“The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4
“The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools.” Proverbs 15:7
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do no swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.” Proverbs 4:23-27
Tomorrow I will share security and online boundary tips.
Kellie and her husband Greg have been married 32 years and have four children ranging in age from 17 to 28. She co-founded Mentoring Moments for Christian Women in 2005. Kellie is a homeschooling mom who enjoys reading, studying the Bible, writing, photography, and learning how to cook.
Kellie and her husband Greg have been married 32 years and have four children ranging in age from 18 to 28. She co-founded Mentoring Moments for Christian Women in 2005. Kellie is a homeschooling mom who enjoys reading, studying the Bible, writing, photography, and learning how to cook.